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The Search for Meaning 2.0: Multiple Confirmations

How should we pray when considering major life-changing opportunities?

In 2003, our family took a huge step of faith to follow God’s plan for our lives.  We left 15 years of pastoral ministry to become missionaries with a focus on training pastors and church planters in southern Africa. 

The way in which we came to this decision was supernatural or one could say it was miraculous.  We asked God for his guidance, and he gave it.

Multiple Confirmations

The phone call was a surprise when I was invited to become part of the OC Africa team in Johannesburg.  My wife and I were not looking for a change but God presented an opportunity that we had to consider. We agreed to pray about it.

The move began a couple of weeks later as we were praying with family and friends.  I don’t remember what any of us prayed that day except for one phrase that our friend Cathy said. “Lord, please give Craig and Heather multiple confirmations of your plans for them.” 

It didn’t mean much at the time, but in the days to come it would find great meaning and significance, so much so, that I would write about it today, 17 years later.

We returned home that night, and there were no great epiphanies or voices from Heaven telling us to go to Africa, but in the days to come, we would hear the voice of God like never before in our lives.

Confirmation #1 - God spoke to us through our family.

The very next morning, we got up in the morning with our four boys, and Joel (about 4 years old at that time and completely unaware of what we were considering) asked me, “Dad, will you take me to South Africa for my birthday?” 

Those words still send a shiver down my spine.  I asked Joel where he had heard of South Africa.  I wondered if he had overheard us talking in the last few days.  He innocently replied, “Grandpa went there, and they have zebras there.” 

God spoke to us through our family.

Confirmation # 2 – God spoke to us through friends and circumstances.

I am not usually good at journaling, but during this time, I started to keep a journal where I would write down some of my prayers, questions, and some of the growing list of confirmations that were happening. 

The following weekend we had a couple of guys from Nanaimo staying with us while they attended a youth conference in Edmonton.  As a thank you gift, they gave me a copy of Henry Blackaby’s new book, Hearing God’s Voice.  Here is a snippet of the opening to chapter one, “Does God speak to people today? Does God really call people to be missionaries in Africa?” 

God spoke to us through friends and circumstances.

Confirmation #3 – God spoke to us through his Word.

Not all of the confirmations were this bold, but some of the subtle ones included suddenly noticing how many products in our home were from South Africa.

A few months later, I was preaching through an eight week series on the life of David as God raised him up, chose him, and called him to a ministry that was far beyond what any young shepherd boy could ever dream or imagine.  As I worked through that series, each message was speaking to me, just as much as it was speaking to the congregation. 

God spoke to us through his Word.

Confirmation #4 – God spoke to us through a Pastor.

In late July of that year, about four months after the initial phone call, we had an opportunity to make a family trip down to visit friends in the USA.  While on vacation, we went to church with our friends. 

I remember sitting down in the enormous sanctuary and wondering to myself, "How does anyone ever experience God individually in such an enormous service?" The worship was very impressive, and the special music was concert quality (after all, we were in Nashville). 

The pastor spoke on Nehemiah 1.  The main part of the message that spoke to me was that there had been so many people in Jerusalem who knew that the walls were down but would not do anything about it.  They had lots of excuses for not doing what God wanted them to do:

  • “I am too busy with my family or building my business.”
  • “I don’t know how to do that.”
  • “Someone else can do a better job than me.”
  • “I will help with that when I finish what I am doing, or when my kids are grown up.” etc. 

Many of these excuses were similar to the reasons that Heather and I had for postponing a launch into missionary work in Africa.  Once again, in this mega-church setting, God was speaking to me. 

God spoke to us through a pastor.

Confirmation #5 – God clears the path for us to walk in obedience to him.

We surrendered and agreed to become missionaries to Africa, but the confirmations did not stop.  Little things continued to happen: the sale of a house, the raising of financial support, the unexpected support of family and friends. It was clear that this was the path that God wanted us to take. 

God clears the path for us to walk in obedience to him.

On the Path

I will never forget the prayer that Cathy prayed in my Dad’s living room.  It changed our lives and opened our eyes and ears to see and hear the voice of God as we asked him for direction. 

He never showed us his whole plan, but he would show us each new step as we needed to take it.  I started writing our monthly newsletter and called it “On The Path” because that is where we are…We are on the path that God is directing for our lives, our ministry, and our family. 

When we feel uncertain or when I wonder if I have stepped off of the path to one side or the other, I come back to the Lord in prayer and ask him once again to provide some of those simple confirmations. 

Sometimes they are big and impossible to miss, other times they are very small and probably unnoticeable to anyone else, but I have learned that when I ask and listen, the Lord is always faithful to provide multiple confirmations.


This is the 2nd article in a Blog Series on "The Search for Meaning".

You can read the 1st article here: "The Search for Meaning: 5 Simple Steps" where I walk through 5 Simple Steps to Search for God's Unique Purpose for your Life.


 

When Craig Kraft was very young, he wanted to be a policeman or a cowboy. Later in life, he dreamed of being a professional fisherman or the manager of a remote wilderness lodge. Craig served as a pastor in BC and Alberta for 16 years before joining OC in the area of Church Health and Revitalization. Craig, and his wife Heather, served with OC for three years in southern Africa before he became the Executive Director of Outreach Canada in 2008. Craig loves to watch sports, work in the yard & spend time in the woods. He values that OC is a team of passionate people who work together toward the goal of discipling people into the kingdom of God and he loves the opportunities he has to work with so many different people across Canada & the world. 



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While there, I had the honour of hearing the stories of missionaries who have worked in the overseas ministry context for many years. And boy, did I feel inadequate for the task as some of them had faithfully served a lifetime, having much more cross-cultural experience than I have and the wisdom that accompanies such incredible life experiences.

But what struck me the most and motivated me all the more to listen, was that many of these seasoned missionaries never had the opportunity to actually share their full stories with anyone – that is their deeply personal and valuable stories, the good, the bad and the ugly. And that’s really a reflection and a limitation of our modern missionary movement; missionaries often feel obligated to share only the positive experiences and their successes, lest they be judged or misunderstood, or worse, lose vital financial or personal support...

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I recently returned from RE-VIEW, a week-long family debriefing retreat, where I served as an adult facilitator and debriefer.

While there, I had the honour of hearing the stories of missionaries who have worked in the overseas ministry context for many years. And boy, did I feel inadequate for the task as some of them had faithfully served a lifetime, having much more cross-cultural experience than I have and the wisdom that accompanies such incredible life experiences.

But what struck me the most and motivated me all the more to listen, was that many of these seasoned missionaries never had the opportunity to actually share their full stories with anyone – that is their deeply personal and valuable stories, the good, the bad and the ugly. And that’s really a reflection and a limitation of our modern missionary movement; missionaries often feel obligated to share only the positive experiences and their successes, lest they be judged or misunderstood, or worse, lose vital financial or personal support...


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There is something so beautiful about the quick bonds that form between MKs (Missionary Kids), who understand each other despite having drastically different life experiences. It’s like a breath of fresh air to be surrounded by people who have gone through similar life experiences. It helps you to share on a more honest and intimate level.

Each year, the MORE Network runs Classic ReBoot, a re-entry retreat for missionaries’ kids (MKs) aged 17-20 returning to life in Canada. This is a crucial time in the lives of these young adults, many of whom are not only adjusting to a new culture, but also to new schools, jobs, relationships, and living situations.

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Deny - the word sprang out at me, convicting and exposing me. 

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“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it.” -Mark 8:35

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“Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” -Mark 8:34

I still remember the moment I heard the words of Mark 8, grasping their significance for the first time. Sitting amongst peers while at university – I was largely preoccupied by ambition and my pursuit of excellence.

I didn’t know a lot back then about what it means to follow Jesus, but I did know Jesus as the Saviour who pulls little children closer, drowning out harshness with His greatness. His hands had sheltered my heart throughout my youth and brought along gifts of companionship, discipleship, and understanding. I felt cherished by Jesus and it was his inordinate compassion towards me that kept me tethered to Him. 

Deny - the word sprang out at me, convicting and exposing me. 

What did that mean? 

I was well positioned to pursue the American Dream and succeed at it, and denying myself in any way was not really part of the plan. So tangibly struck, I fumbled to respond to those words within our group, finally landing on, “I don’t think I’m doing that”. 

“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it.” -Mark 8:35

Oh boy, somehow denying myself was connected to losing my life and that was not anywhere on my to-do list. I was on track for a comfortable life, full of all the perks of a first-world society, with no regard for the reality that no one avoids suffering anyway...


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Jesus taught us that building relationships is the greatest and most important thing we do - no strings attached.

So, how do we build Christ-honoring relationships in our life & ministry? In this article, Paul draws on wisdom from the Bible, underscoring the importance of humility, forgiveness, trust, and genuine care in developing deep and meaningful relationships. And he challenges us, first and foremost, to approach ministry (and life) at the "speed of relationships!"

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Building relationships is the first and foremost thing we should be about - everything else comes out of relationships. Building relationships with people from other cultures is so important, as humor; lifestyle; values; and beliefs are so different to ours, and don’t translate well. Living next to, and working with other nationalities, requires relationship.

Jesus taught us that building relationships is the greatest and most important thing we do - no strings attached.

So, how do we build Christ-honoring relationships in our life & ministry? In this article, Paul draws on wisdom from the Bible, underscoring the importance of humility, forgiveness, trust, and genuine care in developing deep and meaningful relationships. And he challenges us, first and foremost, to approach ministry (and life) at the "speed of relationships!"


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In this article, Malik shares about his recent travels, and offers advice on how to process complex feelings while traveling and staying connected to multiple cultures.

 

The Bittersweet of Travelling as an Adult TCK

Over the last year, I took more flights than I ever have within a single year. I’ve had more time to be in these liminal spaces than ever before. As an adult TCK (Third Culture Kid), this has invited me to reflect more deeply on why I am where I am in the world, and how that continues to shape my identity. In these spaces I momentarily re-enter into the journey of transition and grief.

In this article, Malik shares about his recent travels, and offers advice on how to process complex feelings while traveling and staying connected to multiple cultures.

 


Wilderness ReBoot 2023

Wilderness ReBoot is an annual Canadian Retreat for adult MKs (Missionary Kids) in the Canadian back country wilderness.

Wilderness ReBoot 2023

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Classic ReBoot 2023

Classic ReBoot is an annual Canadian Retreat for MKs (Missionary Kids) and TCKs (Third Culture Kids). 

Classic ReBoot 2023

Classic ReBoot is an annual Canadian Retreat for MKs (Missionary Kids) and TCKs (Third Culture Kids). 


Risk-taking in the Canadian Wilderness

What first came to mind when I was invited to the “Canadian wilderness” to help lead a Wilderness Camp for adult third culture kids (ATCKs) this past July was the book Hatchet by Gary Paulsen.  

All spring I relished these thoughts: an adventure of “humans against the elements” with a group of young adult TCKs and ATCK co-leaders who “got it.” Overcoming challenges together is a great way to bond quickly, and with other ATCKs, I knew those bonds could form quickly in the right setting. Having grown up in the mountains of Vermont and in the highlands of Kenya, hiking, camping, paddling, and climbing in wild places is revitalizing to me. 

We were headed into all the key elements of adventure: horseback riding, rock climbing, kayaking, and hiking in the mountains where elk, moose, and grizzly bears roamed, living in tents that had just been resurrected after a literal crushing storm. In between, we would split wood and help with cooking, and immerse ourselves in outdoor life—axe throwing and bonfires, outhouses (let’s be real) and camp cooking, fast changing weather, and the sweetest air you could imagine. For me, that kind of life isn’t about a contest so much as it is about finding harmony with elements that can give wonderful gifts and can also kill you. Risk in its essence...

Risk-taking in the Canadian Wilderness

What first came to mind when I was invited to the “Canadian wilderness” to help lead a Wilderness Camp for adult third culture kids (ATCKs) this past July was the book Hatchet by Gary Paulsen.  

All spring I relished these thoughts: an adventure of “humans against the elements” with a group of young adult TCKs and ATCK co-leaders who “got it.” Overcoming challenges together is a great way to bond quickly, and with other ATCKs, I knew those bonds could form quickly in the right setting. Having grown up in the mountains of Vermont and in the highlands of Kenya, hiking, camping, paddling, and climbing in wild places is revitalizing to me. 

We were headed into all the key elements of adventure: horseback riding, rock climbing, kayaking, and hiking in the mountains where elk, moose, and grizzly bears roamed, living in tents that had just been resurrected after a literal crushing storm. In between, we would split wood and help with cooking, and immerse ourselves in outdoor life—axe throwing and bonfires, outhouses (let’s be real) and camp cooking, fast changing weather, and the sweetest air you could imagine. For me, that kind of life isn’t about a contest so much as it is about finding harmony with elements that can give wonderful gifts and can also kill you. Risk in its essence...


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"Stillwood provided the space as a young MK for me to gain community, and to experience growth spiritually and in leadership." - Mallory Luesink

Inviting MKs and TCKs to Stillwood: An Interview with Mallory

Listen in to this interview with Mallory Luesink, Program Director at Stillwood Camp and Conference Centre, about her experience as an MK (Missionary Kid) and about opportunities for TCKs (Third Culture Kids) and MKs and Stillwood Camp!

"Stillwood provided the space as a young MK for me to gain community, and to experience growth spiritually and in leadership." - Mallory Luesink


Wilderness ReBoot: What to Expect

Designed for adult MKs (Missionary Kids) seeking a deep encounter with God amidst the beauty of the Canadian back country wilderness, Wilderness ReBoot is a co-ed retreat for MKs (Missionary Kids) ages 21-35 willing to be challenged physically and spiritually, while deepening their relationship with God by seeking His direction in their lives. 

Benjamin Reed, the Program Director for Wilderness ReBoot shares the purpose behind the retreat and a behind-the-scenes look at what you can expect. 

Wilderness ReBoot: What to Expect

Designed for adult MKs (Missionary Kids) seeking a deep encounter with God amidst the beauty of the Canadian back country wilderness, Wilderness ReBoot is a co-ed retreat for MKs (Missionary Kids) ages 21-35 willing to be challenged physically and spiritually, while deepening their relationship with God by seeking His direction in their lives. 

Benjamin Reed, the Program Director for Wilderness ReBoot shares the purpose behind the retreat and a behind-the-scenes look at what you can expect. 


Updates & Reflections from My Trip to India

Paul shares stories, updates and reflections from his recent trip to India. God is at work!

Updates & Reflections from My Trip to India

Paul shares stories, updates and reflections from his recent trip to India. God is at work!